Stress Counselling St Albans

What is stress?

Stress is part of a busy modern life. You are probably used to being on the go and feeling under pressure. The pressure can feel too much and you might be questioning how well you are coping with it. When you feel that the demands placed on you, such as work and family, outweigh your ability to manage them you will begin to feel stressed and overwhelmed. Stress counselling St Albans can help when you feel stressed to work through these feelings.

If you have previously experienced stressful or traumatic events it can impact how well you feel able to cope with stress and it can be difficult for you to see solutions to difficulties. You may be relying on coping mechanisms that are not effective or healthy, such as drinking wine every evening after work. It can also be difficult to allow yourself the time you need to stop and take a breather, which in turns give you the space to look at things objectively.

Everyone experiences stress differently ways. If you are feeling stressed, here are some of things you may notice:

Stress Symptoms

  • Struggling to switch off and to relax?

  • Feeling of running on empty?

  • Staying at work later or starting much earlier?

  • Feeling irritable or angry at the slightest thing?

  • Withdrawing from people & wanting to isolate?

  • Aches, pains, headaches or stomach aches?

  • Loss of libido and sexual desire?

How can stress counselling help me?

Today I’m going to talk to you about stress. We all get stressed from time to time, I’m talking really when stress gets out of control.

What causes stress?

We usually get stressed when the demands placed on us exceed what we are able to manage.

So often there’s stress around work, you might notice that you are staying later or going in earlier. You may be checking your phone all the time to check on emails.You might be going to bed at night just thinking how you’re going to manage the next day.

Feeling stressed out?

When you’re stressed:

  • you can become frustrated so you’ll become more snappy at people
  • you might be angry
  • you might shout at people a bit more than you normally would
  • there can be physical symptoms. So it might be stomach aches or headaches, it does vary in different people.
  • it’s a feeling of running on empty
  • you might notice that you’re not eating as well.
  • you may be drinking more caffeine or alcohol in the evenings trying to cope.

How can counselling help with stress?

First of all we’d look at what’s causing the stress. We’d see if there’s things that can be changed.

It may be that you’re someone who finds it difficult to say no to things. We would work on you developing your boundaries and being assertive and learning how to say No. I’m going to say a bit more about that in another video I’ll do about relationships.

You may also be someone that really likes things to be perfect, I’ve also done another video on perfectionism, so if that’s you please watch that one as well because that will help.

We’ll also obviously look at relaxation things.

We can look at simple things like how you breathe, most of us breathe in a really shallow way and just general tips about stress management.

It may also be that if the stress has been going on for quite a while you may start to get burnt out. Then it’s really about looking at how you can give yourself some time to recover from that.

Ok so there’s just a few ideas of how I could work with you around stress. If you’d like any more information then either get in touch with me on the website or you can email me or phone me I’m always happy to answer any questions.

OK until next time take care.

Book a free consultation for stress counselling here.

Stress, anxiety and depression are closely linked with a lot of the symptoms overlapping. You may find it helpful to also look at the anxiety and depression pages.

Need help now?

If you are having suicidal thoughts or need help immediately please try and talk to someone. You need to know that you are not alone and you are not beyond help.

If you need help immediately call 999 or go to any hospital A&E department.

If you don’t want to go to an A&E you can call 111 for NHS England. You can also contact your GP for an emergency out of hours appointment.

Here are some helplines you can call anytime, day or night. They can help you to see options beyond your feelings of despair.

Samaritans –  116 123.

Papyrus – 0800 068 41 41. For teenagers and young people.

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – 0800 58 58 58. For men.

Childline – 0800 1111. For children and young people.

If you need urgent help and want to try something else, try this from Mind.